Doing the work

Yesterday I wrote that healing is best approached from an empowered and empowering stance. No one is here to “fix” or “save” anyone else, and if you go around propping up your sense of self worth trying to do this work for others, it’s a sign to turn inward and find Read more…

Disconnection

Here’s a small sign that you’ve disconnected from yourself: You’re in a group trying to decide where to eat and you’re like, “Wherever you want.” Maybe you’re thinking “I’m easy.” And that’s fine. But if you get to the restaurant and scan the menu and can’t figure out what you Read more…

Follow your heart

Here’s a cliché that’s so often misunderstood. “Follow your heart” does not mean hold onto the people who break your heart because you love them and deep down you see the goodness of their soul. “Follow your bliss” does not mean “do what makes you happy,” or that you have Read more…

Unconditional love

I still don’t really know how to talk about this fully, but I experienced a tremendous, miraculous shift recently in one of the most important and most challenging relationships in my life. This is something I have been working on for decades, and we’ve both been in therapy individually and Read more…

Creative destruction

Image: Dwight Burdette via Wikimedia Commons Yesterday I wrote about how things often look like they are getting worse before they get better when you undergo a process of healing. During one such period in my life, I connected with my Akashic Records and was basically like wtf? The image they sent me was Read more…

Healing blowback

A funny thing happens when we start or intensify a healing process. The initial shifts we make might feel great, if slightly uncomfortable, but after a period of elation, at some point down the road shit hits the fan. It might even feel like you are backsliding. Let me tell Read more…

Joyful healing

One type of client I seem to attract (and there’s always a very personal reason for these kind of patterns) are the type A, super achiever, “I’m gonna do whatever it takes to heal myself” kinda person. They’ve devoted years to self-improvement and personal development. They consider themselves diligent, self-reflective, and hardworking. Yet they Read more…