Life is always issuing you invitations to find your center. Exercising the choice to turn inward to your central pillar of light even especially when external circumstances challenge you is the most important life skill you will ever master. The more frequently you return to your home frequency, the easier it is to entrain to it. Once you become intimately familiar with the true, unconditional energies of peace, love, joy, abundance, etc. at the center of your being, you will readily recognize when something is out of balance within you. Training your focus inward on your Brilliant System will support you in bringing whatever is out of alignment back into balance. Once you are internally balanced, you can refocus your attention on your external circumstances and begin taking right action.

Here is a list of some of the most common invitations to find your center. Do any of them resonate with you? Remember, these are not signs that anything is going wrong. They are invitations being issued from your Brilliant System that it’s time to reconnect with your Self.

Lost, confused, and scattered

  • You have trouble accessing your truth.
  • You are standing at a crossroads and are hesitating to take your next step.
  • When faced with a question, your first impulse is to turn to external guidance and rely on outside authority figures for an answer.
  • It’s hard for you to know or communicate how you feel because you are either numb or your thoughts and emotions are chaotic and overwhelming.
  • Your energy, attention, and emotions are all over the place. You have trouble being in the here and now.
  • You live with a background buzz of anxiety. Your mind either ruminates on the past or worries about the future.
  • You feel scattered, and as a result you get easily drained, distracted from what’s important, or have difficulty even determining where you want or need to focus.
  • You find other people’s moods contagious, so you use other people’s “good energy”to uplift you and / or you try to distance yourself from strong emotions. You may also identify as an empath and feel other people’s pain deeply, or not know how to separate your emotions from theirs.
  • You feel like a cork bobbing on the ocean of life, buffeted by the winds of change.

Running in the rat race

  • You are prone to perfectionism, people-pleasing, and poor self-esteem.
  • You move through life feeling pushed by fear or always striving to achieve. You rarely rest on your laurels because you feel you are only as good as your next project.
  • Making any sort of mistake or receiving any form of criticism (including constructive feedback) feels like a knife to the heart or a punch in the gut.
  • You have a fragile sense of self worth. You tend to be your harshest critic and / or thrive on external forms of validation.
  • You can’t figure out how to balance being good at life (“winning” or succeeding) and being kind to yourself.
  • Your “self care” to-do list is overwhelming, your meditation practice is stressing you out, or you can’t figure out how to take the calm of your yoga practice “off the mat.”
  • You cycle between the poles of being really hard on yourself and being extremely self-indulgent (e.g., procrastinating and lazing about). Neither tactic makes you feel better or get your closer to where you’d like to be.
  • The question “Who are you?” generates stock answers or protective labels that hide underlying uncertainty and doubt.
  • You suffer from imposter syndrome.

Will the real Self stand up?

  • Beyond simply donning a specific “hat” for a particular task, you put on different masks or personas depending on company or context. Sometimes you can’t help but slip into old roles, especially when you are with family or childhood friends.
  • You like to keep different areas of your life neatly segregated.
  • You are super competent and dependable at work, but your personal life is kind of a mess. Or, alternatively, you are fully yourself around friends and / or family, but you hide a lot of yourself at work.
  • The only way you can answer the question “Who am I?” is by relying on external, maybe even outdated, points of reference. For example, you define yourself by your work (e.g., social entrepreneur, “mover and shaker”), your relationships (e.g., mother, wife), your educational and career achievements (e.g., ivy league grad, director), your identity politics (e.g., feminist, immigrant), your personality type (e.g., introvert, empath), your sun sign, or your past traumas and woundings (e.g., neglected child, betrayed in love, victim of bullying).