In many respects, centering can feel like coming home. But there are cases where that doesn’t hold true. Yesterday I shared how I instinctually knew what I had to do when I was knocked off center with the news of my dad’s impending death. I didn’t know it then, but my brilliant system guided me toward sharing the news with one person outside of my family so that I could begin grounding myself in my new reality.
But while I’d managed to establish a new point of balance, it was a tender and precarious one. I needed to sustain it with conscious breath, or risk a panic attack. I’ll eventually get around to how I recognized the call to surrender to mystery, but first here is another myth to dispel about centering: it does not always and automatically make the pain or discomfort go away. If you are coming to a new point of balance—even with something ostensibly “good,” as in a new job or relationship or home, there is still the element of unfamiliarity to adjust to.
I share this because sometimes clients rush to shift any discomfort out when they come to center. But that will be an impossible feat if you don’t learn to hold space for whatever is showing up for you, no matter how unpleasant you may judge it to be. More on that next, so stay tuned.